When the singer uses the technique of seeing her voice as an entity separate from herself, suddenly she can see that she is not learning to sing with health and with love, with clear communication and expression, for herself alone. She is learning these things in order to preserve something so precious, so worthy of her care, that she would do anything to assure its welfare and growth into all that it is capable of being.
Dog trainer Cesar Millan, and renowned horse trainers Pat Parelli and Walter Zettl, echo this centuries old wisdom in their teaching: the relationship between dog and owner and horse and rider is not about the human. It is about the well being, beauty, and happiness of the creatures that are in our care. It is about learning to communicate with those we care for in ways that express our love and joy at the honor of their presence in their lives.
When the singer is aware of her relationship to her voice, and sees it as a being worthy of respect and love, she learns that she has the power to allow, or not allow, the beauty of the voice to flow around her, with her, and through her. Just as a horseback rider has the power to stifle her mount's energy or direct it toward harmonious movement, and the dog owner has the power to choose to lead the dog toward peace and happiness or toward chaos and confusion, the singer has the power to stifle the voice or allow it to flourish.
When we know this of our voices: that it is not about us, but rather about them, then a joyous dance can begin between the singer and the voice. Once the singer learns to value the voice as a most precious creation, with time, deep understanding closes the gap between singer and song, and one day, the singer turns to look for her voice, and realizes that she and it have become One.